A key tantric idea that Erik and I play with a lot is “Everything is an Experiment.” Erik likes to say, “Doing the same thing is an experiment too. But don’t expect different results.” It strikes me that the holidays are a great time to experiment as it’s a time that tends to be super-charged with unconscious material and we tend to find ourselves playing out old patterns. Creating an experiment is a great way to avoid slipping into unconsciousness. Most people I know — inclu

Here is one of Erik and my favorite experiments to shake things up and re-connect. Temple Time is sacred time or simply "time set apart" from regular life. It’s a practice to go deep with your lover. It is also an incredibly powerful way to create a “container” in which something new can be birthed. Here’s the gist of Temple Time: Choose a date and a time and a place (likely just your bedroom in the beginning!) One person chooses the "door" they want to enter. That means that

I like being macho. Amelia likes my macho when I direct the full force of my masculinity towards her, use it to create a safe space, plan for our future, work hard, or act protectively to create a container to process the inevitable pulls and triggers of living together in a cabin in the woods…. or co-creating a business together. Over 22 years ago, my life was transformed by participating in the The New Warrior Training Adventure, which is sponsored by the ManKind Project, n