One way to frame the work that Erik and I are doing with couples is that we are creating a link from being a good and skilled lover in the intimate sense to being a good and skilled lover to the world. Inspired by our study of Tantra, our friendship with people like Martin Ucik and others, we have a vision of the possibility of couples as transformative agents in the world. Through the microcosm of a love relationship, we can practice and expand to become lovers in the larges